Impossibilities and Possibilities

No matter how hard I try, I will probably never be able to do this (my back will not bend that far)

  or this

  or this

 or this for that matter (Maybe 25 years ago, yes. But definitley not now)

or ever look like this.

BUT I know that I am able to do immesurably more than the average-average human being and that I am immensly blessed in the life I live.

What I can do, is this (plus the trumpet and the recorder)

this (tatting)

this (knitting)

 this (sewing)

and restoring my old dresser to this

and a few more (go here)

I love working with my hands and although at times I don't FEEL like it, I still enjoy it when I do. I know that my talents have been nurtured by my mother who single-handedly renovated two flats, and an entire house, who was always busy sewing and knitting and crocheting and cooking and baking and ensuring that we (my brother and I) were taught skills that were beyond what schools taught. (I know my brother can knit and crochet, weld and repair electronic equipment, do carpentry and programme a computer). It ultimately is not in the skills you posess, but in HOW you use them that matters. How serious you take those gifts and whether you try to better yourself in doing these things.

Yes, our parents matter as do our teachers, but what we do with those skills we are taught is up to us.

If God has gifted you in any way, use the gifts. Don't wait until they are perfect, but practise them, because only practise will ensure that you become good at things. The 10 000 hour rule applies in all instances - it takes 10 000 hours to become an expert in anything. The earlier you start, the better you become. Even if you never are paid for the talents you have, it is the use of them that matters, not the reward.

Subcultures Part I

Name the subcultures:

Everyone can name them: Goth, Rasta, Punk, Hippie, Grunge, ..... And like everyone, we can pick a number of them out in a crowd. We might not be able to recognise the fine nuances of the sub-subcultures, but in general we either know  "Don't mess with these guys", or "these guys are harmless".

Each subculture has their drugs. Either physical powders, pills, liquids or herbs. But drugs can also be emotional and psychological. Emotional dependency is a drug which gets administered by a manipulator and the manipulated lap it up.

The psychological / emotional side is the worst, since it often comes in the form of depression. Some people, when they are depressed manipulate others, because even power can be a drug. Others, in their depression withdraw because they think that nobody cares. Self-pity can be a drug as well. So, let's talk about depression.....

The greatest story of depression (at least he had every right to be) is the story of Job. In a nutshell: He had everything going for him. He was wealthy, he had sons and daughters and he was respected in the community, because he feared God and brought the desired sacrifices (and then some) to atone for any sin he may have (even unwittingly) committed.

Then in one day he loses his livestock (all of it), his servants got killed, his sons and daughters get killed in a freak storm, when the house where they were partying got blown down. As if that was not enough, he develops a terrible skin disease and becomes an outcast and his wife utters the famous words: "curse God and die". His friends hear of his predicament and are so struck, they cannot speak for three days, but then when they do they accuse him of having sinned and he deserves this treatment from God, which he denies, since he has brought all the sacrifices that were required.

It's this just it? When things go well we praise and thank God, and when things go bad we curse him, as if it is his fault that we are suffering. If the story of Job is not depressing, I don't know what is. Job had every right to wallow in self-pity, yet he insists that "The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised." THAT is faith in a God who is in control and who knows what is going on. Job knew he had done everything in his power to be right with God.

The story turns out better than the beginning, with Job receiving twice as much as he had before, including seven sons and three daughters. He also was blessed with a long life (140 years) and could see his children's children to the fourth generation.

What does this have to do with fashion?

Fashion, by it's nature wants us to feel good about ourselves, and even if we don't, the promise is to at least look good as if we are ok. There are several ways in which the fashion industry capitalises on our need to feel good. I'm sure that as a woman we are drawn by the promises, where men get drawn by the visual. It is therefore no wonder that when women go through a slump, they go shopping. The promise is "buy what makes you feel good", "forget about your problems", "Look for happiness somewhere else." "I (fashion) can make you happy - for a while". All of these promises are empty, because they are fleeting. What is lasting is who we are and who we have to live with for the rest of our days.

There is a lasting joy that comes from a knowledge of being right with God, of having someone else in control who is stronger than I, especially when I don't feel like myself or feel like giving up, or when I feel like an outcast. This lasting joy comes from the knowledge of being loved beyond what I can imagine, for who I am and who will lift me up and give me hope that is eternal.